Edgar’s mother Ada had a younger brother named Stanford. To Edgar, Stanford was Mother’s Younger Brother. Stanford was a medical doctor. Stanford and Ada were close. Edgar’s wife Adele said that Stanford used to go to Ada’s house for lunch on occasion. According to Adele, Ada would serve Stanford smoked fish.
Edgar and Adele started to date in early February 1965 when they were high school seniors. Later in their relationship, when they were in college — and when their schedules permitted — Adele and Edgar would occasionally shop for whitefish and onions in the afternoon, return to Adele’s parents’ house, and Adele would prepare the fish. Edgar taught Adele how to saute the onions and cook the whitefish. Edgar and Adele would then settle down to their meal of fried whitefish and sautéed onions. It was almost a ritual that Edgar and Adele engaged in on occasion. Ronnie, Adele’s younger brother, was always excluded. The meal was solely for Edgar and Adele.
Had Edgar assumed the role of Mother’s Younger Brother (Uncle Stanford) (the good object) and assigned Adele the role of the Good Mother in this seeming ritual of the whitefish meal? Was Edgar symbolically recreating the relationship between his mother and her younger brother, Stanford — who used to eat fish meals together with Ada that Ada had prepared? One can always speculate.
Be that as it may.
By the spring of 1982 Edgar and Adele had been blissfully married for 13 years. Edgar, one-in-a-million catch that he was, was an up-and-coming sixth grade teacher in the Camden County Public Schools, one of the country’s most impoverished school districts. Edgar lived to ameliorate the cares of the impoverished and under-served of society.
One day Ronnie, Adele’s younger, mentally-disturbed brother received a telephone call from Adele. “Edgar needs you to do him a favor.” Instead of Edgar talking to Ronnie directly to ask Ronnie to do him a favor, Edgar had recruited Adele to ask Ronnie to do him a favor. Adele continued: “We’re going on vacation for a week to Miami Beach. Edgar needs you to call into work sick every day. I have the telephone number in Camden. Just call and say, ‘My name is Edgar Jacobean. I’m sick today.’ That’s all you need to do.” Ronnie, at Edgar’s behest (via Adele), would impersonate Edgar and say he was sick Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday. Of course, Ronnie would extend the favor. Ronnie, though severely disturbed, was actually quite the generous bloke.
When Edgar was a boy his primary care physician was Uncle Stanford. This was somewhat of a boundary breach in that Uncle Stanford was a close relative who was also performing the function of a professional. Was this relationship, this boundary breach, disturbing to young Edgar? Was the relationship overstimulating in some way?
In assigning Ronnie the role of the “sick Edgar” — the young Edgar who would be taken to see Uncle Stanford the physician, in what was perhaps an overstimulating situation — was Edgar symbolically assigning Ronnie a dual bad object role: the role of Mother’s Younger Brother (the bad object) as well as the role of the sick Edgar (the bad object)?
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The problem of . . .
Jack London, The Race for Number One.
. . . QUESTIONABLE BIOGRAPHICAL TECHNIQUES . . .
K.R. Eissler, Talent and Genius: The Fictitious Case of Tausk Contra Freud.
. . . had arisen very concretely for me in the case of Paul Roazen. He had written what I regarded as a terrible book about Freud called . . .
J. Moussaieff Masson, Final Analysis: The Making and Unmaking of a Psychoanalyst.
. . . Brother Animal: The Story of Freud and Tausk
Janet Malcolm, In the Freud Archives.
Roazen’s book offers a splendid opportunity to confirm a connection that I had already assumed to exist, in a few instances, between a biographer and the person he has chosen as the subject of his presentation. The area of Roazen’s biographical inquiry is, to be sure, defined by Freud and Tausk and their relationship, even though Tausk is the central figure of his book, with Freud providing the background. Yet the fact is that there is a triangle (which the author left out, even though he is at times preoccupied with the discovery of triangles); it is formed by the author, Freud and Tausk. Only it is a spherical triangle: its nature is such that a person who is standing at any one corner of the triangle would be unable to perceive the other two.
Roazen never perceived Freud as he was; at one point he even perceived him as Othello and Iago in one. I doubt that he understood Tausk. Just as he assumes that Tausk used Dr. Deutsch in order to reach Freud, so his own interest in Tausk is apparently focused on the opportunity the latter provides him for detracting from Freud. . . .
I do not mean to say that a psychotic condition is actually induced in a biographer by the subject of his story; yet the relationship between biographer and subject may have a structure that is equivalent to that of folie a deux.
K.R. Eissler, Talent and Genius: The Fictitious Case of Tausk Contra Freud.
Your Comparison to the Average
You are somewhat less outgoing than the average male and female are. Most people like to keep themselves busy with continuous interactions, conversations, and the company of others. You also enjoy these things, but having some time on your own is equally important to you. This is one of the guiding parts of your personality.
The average male and the average female differ slightly in their extraversion level. The average female tends to be more extroverted than the average male is.
You are more relaxed and calm than the average male and female are when it comes to stress and feeling intense emotions. The average male and female are more reactive to their feelings and mood swings than you are. Your balanced way of dealing with emotions is a guiding part of your personality.
The average male and female are similar in their level of emotionality. Women, however, tend to talk about their feelings and emotions more than men do. Starting in early childhood, girls are encouraged to express their feelings more than boys are.
When it comes to certain tasks, you are less organized and detail-oriented than most males are. On the other hand, you are more flexible than the average male is. Both aspects will stand out to people. This is one of the guiding parts of your personality.
The average male and female are both fairly organized and reliable. They like to finish one task before moving on to the next task.
You are similar to most males in your preference for change, but not too much change. Like you, most males don’t mind variety and newness, but they prefer that life still remains predictable. The average female and male are similar in their openness need. They appreciate some change every once in a while, but for the most part prefer routines.
You are similar to most males in your level of agreeableness. Like you, most males are caring and empathetic, but prefer to keep some space between themselves and other people’s problems. Males and females differ slightly in their levels of agreeableness. The average female is more agreeable than the average male is.
Your Thinking-Mode Preferences and the Average
Sensing vs. Intuiting
You follow a brain path that is different from the one most males follow. Most males are more interested in the information that is in the ‘here and now’ than in the information that can be inferred or speculated on. You are interested in and capable of following both. This means that you are able to follow conversations that have unexpected leaps, turns, and branches to new topics.
This is a guiding part of your personality.
The average male and female differ in the type of information they are attracted to. In this way, you work well with the average female. The average female is also most attracted to intuitive information.
Thinking vs. Feeling
Males are an interesting case when it comes to thinking vs. feeling: 50 percent of males are ‘thinkers’, making decisions based mostly on logic, while the other 50 percent are extreme ‘feelers’ – making decisions based fully on their heart. Your tendency is in the direction of the thinkers. For you, clear thinking and rational explanations are important. The majority of females are feelers.
They place less emphasis on logic and rational explanations.
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They have a broad overview of reality. They like to tackle large, complex issues and weigh all the variables involved. And they can be innovative and bold, generating new perspectives and providing imaginative solutions to ambiguous social, political, intellectual or technical problems.
They have fine tuned social skills, easily picking up the gestures, facial expressions and speech patterns of others and expressing yourself clearly and vividly. They are intuitive, too; they understand people, and genuinely sympathize with them. Because they are also flexible and cooperative, they are also good at working in teams.
Yet despite their poise in social situations, they often prefer solitude or informed and detailed conversations with just one individual or a few close friends. They try to avoid routine meetings and social engagements. They prize your independence.
They like to focus deeply and thoroughly on their interests. They can be exacting, tough-minded, analytical and strategic in their approach, too. They leave no stone unturned.