Religion wasn’t a part of my upbringing, although, since it

was a kind of social requirement, as a little girl

I went semi-regularly to church with my mother. But my

father thought faith was a childish comfort for the weak,

and that is what I came to feel, too, probably

mostly in order to be more grown up, like him.

When I fell in love with Ben, then, I wasn’t

sure what my feelings would be about my religious impulses.

Ben was only a part-time, and very casual, Jew in

those days.  I would not be a traditional Jewish wife.


Paraphrases from the novel While I Was Gone by Sue Miller.